Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Amazed

Being a single mother of a little girl is scary. It's cute for the first few years but once you realize she only gets bigger, it gets a little nerve racking. I start to be more careful about what I say and do around her now. Especially since she can spell very well now, I can't be spellin S-E-X no more lol...

But this weekend I saw proof that so far I'm doing pretty damn good raising my daughter.

First, she asked me if she could vacuum the floor. Which is rare for 7 year olds as far as I can tell. She asks to help me cook, she asks to help load the dishwasher, she takes it upon herself to sweep the floor, even when it isn't really necessary. She knows how to make waffles, instant oatmeal, pb&j sandwiches, microwave popcorn, and set the table. All of this I've never had to ask her to do, which makes me feel confident that I'm doing a good job leading by example. Sometimes it isn't what you tell you children, it's what you show them.

Saturday, I was upstairs sorting laundry and she was downstairs vaccuming. After a while I went downstairs and saw this:

she was sitting on the living room floor. the vacuum cleaner was tipped over and she had the bottom of it rested on a paper towel, in her lap. the dirt trap cover was off and there was a screw driver next to her on the floor. she looked at me and said "it wasn't working good. something was stuck in here, i got it out." and pointed to some fur and crumbs on the paper towel. and then asked her little brother for the screws she gave him to hold, and screwed it back together.

I was in awe. She had taken this thing apart by herself! Didn't even call my name to tell me something was wrong with the vacuum cleaner. Didn't even ask me where the screwdriver was or how to use it or anything (btw she's 7 yrs old). I've done this to the vacuum cleaner myself a few times, I just never realized she was paying me any mind when I did it. I was sooo proud of her at that moment.

I snuck a video of her putting the piece back on.



And I love how you can hear my youngest son in the background say to her "good job talia." as my other son sits there holding the screws for her. Teamwork baby. (sidenote: later on this same day my sons were cleaning their room and I overheard them singing "teamwork! cuz thats how it works! teamwork! cuz thats how we roll!" (*dead*) I have no idea where they come up with this stuff! LMAO)
So even though I get nervous about parenting as I go along, this just made me feel like so far I have nothing to worry about... like I'm doing just fine. I told her I was proud of her & that she was so smart and she smiled so hard her eyes almost closed lol. I think I did the same.
She also likes to act a fool (don't know where she gets it from tho *looks around innocently*)

I ♥ my babies.

25 comments:

Lina said...

You did do right by them and thats all that counts as a mother. I look forward to that one day.

Insatiable One said...

That is awesome. You have the makings of a great little woman on your hands...who also knows how to have fun and handle her business *screaming WHATCHA LOOKING AT PUNK?!* LMAO!

La Maravilla said...

AWWWWW Bella, I'm jealous, I hope when I have kids I have such an awesome relationship with them. You are very blessed, and that's so great that your kids are so independent and smart. Good job Mami!!!!!

Your's Truly said...

you are a great inspiration out there for a lot of single mothers, especially because you doing it with THREE and some women are discouraged with only 1...good job girl...IM PROUD OF YOU TOO!!! even though i dont know u personally lol

yours truly said...

you are doing an amazing job with all of them IMO. brilliant kids that are on the right track. it is a beautiful thing to see.

Rere said...

uh duh. all babies inherit their mama's genius!

Bella said...

@everybody: lol thank you so much :) i appreciate the words! i wanted to respond individually but i'd have to go back n forth mad times on my phone n it kinda frustrates the hell outta me lol but thank yall so much :D

TheBlackMamba said...

Uhmmm that last video had me ROLLIN and I had no idea what was going on or what was bein said except for a few words, lol.

Not being a parent myself I can't say I know how hard it must be, but I watch my oldest sister and my other parent-friends and see how hard they have it, married or not, and I commend each and every one of you all...can't wait for my little munchkins! LOL

Milly said...

lol awwww :)

Amber-Alert said...

yea its nerve wracking raising a lil girl but u just have to be confident that u are instilling in them the right beliefs and values!! kids are crazy lol last night im chillin while my daughter and lil bro playin around and she got all this space but comes right next to me to fart and then walks off lol lol i died!!

Bombchell said...

lmao at the 2nd video!

aww gosh you have such great & adorable kids. you should be so proud :)

Anonymous said...

That was so cool! Let me tell you, at my age, I still don't do that! Fugg the vacuum cleaner, I say, lol!
Wilfredo

MISS BEE said...

Awwww reading this I was about to tear up. Thats great that she takes the initative to do things w/o being told or even that she wants to clean up for that matter. Im sure your doing a great job as a parent.

Bella said...

okay im @ work now i dont have to use my phone lol (home pc got another virus *sad face*)

@black mamba: lol! she was like "am i awesome? am i cool? am i fantastic?" and then pretty much lost her mind lmao

@milly: thats how i feel lol

@amber: LMAO! that is too funny! my daughter told me she farted at school (in pre-k i think it was) and some lil girl was like "ewwww!" and my daughter was like "what? i said excuse me. everybody farts. goodness." lmao!

@bombchell: awww thank u :D

@wilfredo: lol! thats a damn shame, dont treat ur vacuum cleaner like that lol

@miss bee: thanks mama! yeah she amazes me so much, i hope she stays like this forever *crosses fingers* lol

Shanell said...

AWW BELLA BEAR!! they are precious your son saying good job made me smile all hard damn it!

K. Michel said...

Ah, you'll be all right. Everything's scary at first ...it's the anticipation.

You'll never know how extraordinary you are without having extraordinary experiences, babe. You know what I mean?

simone_dior said...

amazing! keep up the great work!

the YOUNG LIONESS said...

this makes me smile :)

Missy said...

There is nothing quite like seeing your labor of love come to fruition.
Kudos to you!

Get Write said...

What's gonna work? TEAMWORK! You are one of my mommy idols. I only hope I do as good a job with Phoenix as you've done with the kids. =)

Bella said...

awww thank you! you know ur an awesome mommy! you will do JUST fine :) we need to have another mommies n kiddies lunch again too, i miss you and sugie :(

lipstick cherry said...

i fuckin love both of ur blogs! ur hilarious LOL

Bella said...

thanks mama :)

xxxx said...

aww i know the feeling... kids have a way of just warming your heart. even when they dont mean to

Tamstyles said...

love this post..i didnt know you had this blog..just the "other one"..we all question ourselves as mothers but they love us regardless. i have a wonderful husband and they have the best father, and even i wonder how good i am doing...but when i get the hugs and kisses and told that i am the best mom in the world..i know life is good for them..i wasnt saying tht to my mom...