Saturday, April 11, 2009

Wow.

i was in the kitchen putting groceries away and baby girl comes in and says...


"the word 'hello' has two bad words in it."


"i know baby... wait, two? i only know one. you talkin about 'hell' and what else?"


(she shrugs and looks at the floor)


"baby what other word?"


"if you take away the L..."


"but that would just be 'heo' and that's not a word."


"no, no the letter. the sound."


so i think for a minute...


hello without the "ell" is ho. wtf rite?


so i said "ho?"


she nods her head and i ask her where she heard that word from and how does she know it's bad...


"when you and daddy used to fight, he used to say that to you and you would cry."


she was just 3-4 years old around that time, now she's 7...


WOW.


we need to remember, that kids remember. but you know what else she'll remeber? that i left... and never turned back.

15 comments:

Katrina is a Princess said...

Wow thats crazy.

"we need to remember, that kids remember. but you know what else she'll remember? that i left... and never turned back."

YOU GO GIRL!

Bella said...

thank you! :) im soooooo glad i didnt stay "for the kids sake" some people dont even realize how much that defeats the purpose... smh.

simone_dior said...

children are smarter than we give them credit for!!

La Maravilla said...

That was deep, I'm proud of you and the job you're doing with your kids. It makes my heart smile to see women doing right by themselves and their kids.

Bella said...

@simone: aint that the truth!

@la maravilla: awww thank u so much :)

and thank yall for comin thru!

Epitome said...

I'm a product of people staying together "for the kid's sake" and I tell you what, instead of being taught how to carry on a loving relationship, I learned how to carry on a dysfunctional relationship. That took YEEEEEEARS to decipher how to carry on a healthy one.

Two snaps and a twist (a la in living color's men on film) to you for knowing what you needed to do not only for you but for your kids.

Bella said...

@epitome: lol @ ur two snaps and a twist, i remember that shit ("haaated it!" lol) but thank u :) and thanks for sharing ur story too, alot more ppl need to be aware that staying together just for the children is NOT the best idea, for all involved.

Wilfredo said...

Man, our baby girl really stretched on that one. Just like her mom. :D

Bella said...

thank u my e-baby daddy lol

Lil Honey B said...

Scary that your baby girl remembered that word from your ex, but AMEN that you were strong enough to leave that situation.

Amber-Alert said...

yea u'd be surprised what kids pick up on...smh that made me kinda sad but i am sooooo glad ur the strong woman u are :)

Bella said...

@lil honey b: thanks, yes amen. AND halleluiah! lol

@amber: awww gracias my fellow baby momma! :) lol

Mista Jaycee said...

Wow! And a lil child shall lead them. I will remember that!
Jaycee

Gem said...

Wowzers. That is amazing. Every year of age I get, I always remember what I knew at previous ages so I don't treat younger people like they don't know shit and I always vow to listen to my future unicorns/kids.

Thanks for this, Bella.

jentastic said...

Yea this post is old but I had to comment.
I love this. I'm glad that you moved on from that situation. I never really understand people that think you can talk about things in front of kids and they don't know what you are talking about...THEY DO lol!!!